The Adorned Wife

Loving your Spouse Unconditionally Now that you have been married for a few months, have you been asking yourself what happened to my fairy tale?  Almost every woman wants the fairy tale to continue after the wedding, but reality sets in after financial problems arrive, small disagreements or everyday life happens.  When these things happen we begin noticing our Spouse's weaknesses. You start asking yourself, "Where is the person that I married and what happened to my perfect marriage"? After months of being married to your Spouse reality sets in, and you begin to notice some of your Spouse's weaknesses. It's easy to begin doubting your marriage and to start thinking that you could have made a mistake.  These kind of thoughts can be dangerous, because once you allow negative thinking to enter your mind, you are opening the door to temptation.  The enemy loves it when you start doubting your marriage, so do not allow it to happen. When you f...

I wrote something years ago. I continue to share it, because if I can save even one person than I will have accomplished something. I am fully aware that some of you have children on here and if this offends you, than I apologize. However, I would rather them have the knowledge, instead of become a victim of this substance. It all starts with an injury, a headache, a kidney stone, a surgery, or just wanting to try something new.  You may be afraid at first to try this unknown drug, because of the things that you’ve heard. You end up trying it anyway, because of the pain your feeling, the attempt of trying to be cool around your friends, or to escape reality. There is something that you do not know; once you shallow that pill, your life will NEVER be the same. The reason it changes your life, is most people enjoy the feeling that you receive off the pills. This will lead to you wanting more of what you just felt. Once the pills run out you will start to sneeze, your nose ...

Preventing the big "D" It is not uncommon to hear that a friend, family member, or a co-worker is going through a divorce. What most people do not realize is that divorce is an individual problem. It cannot be generalized. In some cases, divorce is not solution, because one or both spouses feel the marriage can be saved from divorce.  Divorce may be right for one person and wrong for another. Not all marriages can be saved from the big "D" word, but when a Husband and Wife agree to putting lots of time and effort into fixing the problems, divorce can be avoided. The key thing to remember is, divorce takes place first in the mind; the legal proceedings follow after.  If you and your Spouse have a negative attitude about your marriage and toward each other, then your marriage will not work. When you are silently resenting your Spouse and have hostility toward them, you are being unfaithful. You may be asking yourself, "How is having negative ...

Staying Connected My Husband and I are very private people, especially whenever it comes to our marriage, However, I have decided to share with everyone what I have recently been going through. For the past couple of weeks, I have felt that my Husband and I have both had an emotional wall up, towards each other. I know that our love for each other is very strong and that we have the favor of God on our marriage, so I did not have any doubts about our marriage. I just wanted to figure out why I was feeling as if my marriage had became disconnected. I knew that I had to find a solution to the problem and fast. After a lot of prayers and communicating with each other, I figured out what the problem was! Everyone has three needs in life: Love, Security and Meaning. Love - To know that your Spouse is unconditionally committed to your best interest "My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you" (John 15:12). Meaning -To know that our lives h...

All of us have the occasional argument with our Spouse. I do not know about you, but I do not like to argue with anyone. I especially dislike arguing with my Husband, because most of the time we have a tendency to yell or say things that we do not mean to say to one another. Eventually, after we have both calmed down we do apologize for anything that we may have said or did during the argument that could have caused the other one any hurt feelings.  In a perfect world there would not be any arguing with our Spouse, but we all know that this world is not perfect. Even small disagreements can became an issue if not handled properly. When I refer to disagreements, it can be getting upset over your Spouse showing more attention to video games. You may feel that lately, your Spouse is working too many hours, your Spouse may not be helping around the house, your Spouse may not have shown you enough attention, and the list goes on. So how can you attempt to stop the arguments tha...

ABC’ S of Successful Marriage A-Adore your spouse B-Be able to be yourself around them C-Care for one another D-Delight in one another’s presence E-Encourage your spouse to do better on daily basis F-Forgive easily G-Give all of yourself H-Help each other learn ways to become closer to God I-Inspire each other J-Joke around K-Kiss as often as possible L-Love unconditionally M-Make them feel special N-Nurture their needs O-Overcome fears and trust issues P-Practice patience always Q-Quality alone time S-Say “I love you” many times throughout the day T-Tenderly touch them as much as possible U-Understand that they are not perfect V-Value everything about them W-Walk with God and put him first in your marriage X-Xmas should always be spent celebrating the birth of Jesus Y-Yearn for them always Z-zzzz in your spouse’s arms The Adorned Wife : Stephanie Boyette

Whenever your Spouse or anyone is negative toward you, do not allow their pessimistic attitude to take your joy away. Instead, repay them with kindness by building them up with loving and kind words. Ephesians 4:32 states, We are to be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as Christ God forgave you". We are supposed to be imitating God like behavior, which means having an optimistic attitude and showing love toward all of our brother and sisters in Christ. Speak kind words, think positive thoughts and show love towards everyone. Always live your life with joy in your heart! Article written by: Stephanie Boyette

 Have you ever felt like you did not know which direction your life was heading in? I feel that way, whenever I have too many things planned for the day. It never seems that there is enough time to complete the things that I have on my to-do list. I consider myself very detailed, so I like knowing how and when things are going to happen.  There is only 24 hours in a day, which means that I have to sort through the most important ones on the list. My priorities are usually not what they should be, because I should always make it my first priority to spend good, quality time with God. The Lord always has time for us and gives us his undivided attention, which means that we should do the same for him. God has blessed us with days on this earth, the least we can do is to make it a priority to spend time with him and that means putting him first on your to-do list. Putting God first in your daily list of things to do, will show the Lord that you are taking steps to strengthen ...

Today, “till death do we part” does not mean what it says to some people.  Today, divorce has taken over our society. We now see prenuptial agreements and couples maintaining separate bank accounts (some spouses will even withhold the other from having access to the account).  Marriage is about sharing your lives and committing yourselves to being together. When you allow separation of your lives emotionally and financially the enemy can tear down the marriage. God designed marriage as the joining together of one flesh, by sharing equally in all aspects of our lives and committing ourselves to being together. The idea of separation in these financial and personal aspects is a mentality of preparing for divorce, before it even happens. Being married requires self-sacrifice and laying down your personal desires. You are supposed to love your spouse, just as The Lord loves us.  What are some  ways that you can save your marriage from failure ?   1. Pray ...

                    ~Forgiveness~  °When you forgive others, God will bring you blessings °You can move forward and forget, when you forgive °When you forgive, other's will begin to forgive you easier °You will begin to worship God with your whole heart, when  you show forgiveness °Forgiveness will show that you are kind hearted °Be more like Christ; Forgive easily °When you forgive you will have peace and not become bitter. Article Published By: Luther and Stephanie  Boyette

Faithfulness:                       Stay faithful to your spouse. Cheating can be defined as: fantasying about the opposite sex, sharing intimate and personal details of your life with the opposite sex, and being physically intimate with the opposite sex. ( Hebrews 13:4) Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Forgiveness:                        Forgive your spouse, just as Jesus has forgiven you for your sins. Without forgiveness, you will never get past your problems . ( Mark 11:25, 26) And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have aught against any; that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive you...